Interracial Love: Should We Have Children?

I am black and I have been dating a white man for several years now, and I feel that we have an incredible relationship. We are honest, loving, and faithful, and we work hard to make sure that both of us are happy. In the past I have dealt with racism from both white and black people, and I worry that if we have kids they will deal with more racial attacks than us. Is it right to bring your children into a situation in which they will deal with such harsh racism? Tanya B. Greenfield, CA, 35

Racism is prevalent through out the world, and if you are mixed you may experience it from either race. Your concern that your children will be faced with more racism than other children should not limit you from having children. No matter what your race, your children are going to face the trials and tribulations of life, and be exposed to prejudice and racism because it is the human nature of the ego to judge others. The key is to teach them who they are as human beings, and that all people are equal because we are all connected to the human condition. We all love, hate, cry, and feel pain. We all live and as Susanna Moodie described, "death, the great equalizer," we all die. Teach your children to judge people by their character not by their color, and instill all the great qualities and lessons you have learned from your own experiences. Choose to live your life ruled by love, and don't allow fear to limit the great family you want to bring into this world.

(Via Black Voices)